today is special
today is the day my husband was born. twenty nine years ago. his last year as a twenty-something (not that he cares). it's crazy to think his first birthday we celebrated together was when he was fifteen. i'm pretty sure his mom took all of us to a haunted house. fourteen years ago.
he's great. you know i feel this way and so i don't need to say it again but i want to. even if he never reads my blog.
in the grand scheme of things, fourteen years isn't really that long. i plan to have an entire lifetime of experiences with him but it is worth applauding all that we have accomplished together so far. like these three kids who are the spitting image of him.
last night i was angry with jake because he missed dinner. again. i get tired of eating by myself with three kids. every meal, every day. i'd told him dinner would be ready at 6:30. he heard me too and said he was on his way home. at 6:45 we were done eating, his place at the table untouched. when he told me he stopped at someones house to deliver them music, i was furious.
really, one of the only things that frustrates me about jake is he won't let me be mad at him. he won't fight with me and sometimes, i just want to duke it out with someone. he's a pleaser of the people. he will avoid confrontation like i avoid walking barefoot in a hotel room. it's so unpleasant for him, he'll always "let it go." some people might see this as a weakness, if you feel a certain way about something then you should stand your ground and i would like to agree except i can't. because it's his non-confrontational, people-pleasing habits that has made our marriage so strong. i realize most often, whatever it is, it's not worth being upset with the one person i'm in love with.
later in the evening, after giving him the silent treatment for at least an hour, i told him that i hoped his dinner was cold. he poked me in the side (which i hate) and explained simply that he was late because he was busy making a business transaction. to better our family, of course. because you see, this "someone" is actually the foreman for a large builder and jake does a lot of side work for him. i didn't want to buy his lame excuse but i had no choice.
he wouldn't stop poking me.
and
i hope he never does.
he's great. you know i feel this way and so i don't need to say it again but i want to. even if he never reads my blog.
in the grand scheme of things, fourteen years isn't really that long. i plan to have an entire lifetime of experiences with him but it is worth applauding all that we have accomplished together so far. like these three kids who are the spitting image of him.
last night i was angry with jake because he missed dinner. again. i get tired of eating by myself with three kids. every meal, every day. i'd told him dinner would be ready at 6:30. he heard me too and said he was on his way home. at 6:45 we were done eating, his place at the table untouched. when he told me he stopped at someones house to deliver them music, i was furious.
really, one of the only things that frustrates me about jake is he won't let me be mad at him. he won't fight with me and sometimes, i just want to duke it out with someone. he's a pleaser of the people. he will avoid confrontation like i avoid walking barefoot in a hotel room. it's so unpleasant for him, he'll always "let it go." some people might see this as a weakness, if you feel a certain way about something then you should stand your ground and i would like to agree except i can't. because it's his non-confrontational, people-pleasing habits that has made our marriage so strong. i realize most often, whatever it is, it's not worth being upset with the one person i'm in love with.
later in the evening, after giving him the silent treatment for at least an hour, i told him that i hoped his dinner was cold. he poked me in the side (which i hate) and explained simply that he was late because he was busy making a business transaction. to better our family, of course. because you see, this "someone" is actually the foreman for a large builder and jake does a lot of side work for him. i didn't want to buy his lame excuse but i had no choice.
he wouldn't stop poking me.
and
i hope he never does.
Comments
That is great that, that is the only thing that annoys you about Jake! And I do not htink being non-confrontational is a flaw either! It is a great quality!
AND 14 years is a quite an accomplishment!